I work with people experiencing grief & bereavement from both death & non-death losses. My particular focus is grief that is disenfranchised, hidden in the shadows, unacknowledged or invalidated. I help people experiencing the shame of relational trauma to heal, recover & rebuild their life.

I provide counselling for all sorts of non-death loss, such as relationship endings, separation & divorce, particularly due to secrets, lies and betrayals.

Counselling for heterosexual/cisgender people who have discovered their partner is LGBTQIA+

I specialise in working with people who find themselves in a mixed-orientation relationship, having discovered their partner is LGBT.

The heterosexual/cisgender partner (often referred to as a ‘straight spouse’) typically experiences deep grief in response to this traumatic, confusing loss, yet their pain may be overlooked or minimised by friends & family. My own lived experience enriches the professional counselling I offer, enhancing my empathy and understanding while privileging your unique situation.

I can also work with couples adapting to their changing relationship, unsure whether to separate or make their mixed-orientation relationship work, and how to tell your children.

Perhaps you are the older child who has had one parent "come out of the closet" and you are struggling to make sense of the situation and navigate your relationship with one or both parents. These complex family relationships can be challenging, but not impossible, to navigate.

Counselling can also be provided for the LGBT partner, who may have carried guilt and shame for many years, and may be struggling to know how to tell their partner and children.

Grief and Loss Counselling

Bereavement due to miscarriage, termination, stillbirth, neonatal death or infertility can also leave you grieving in the shadows. It's possible no one even knows what you're going through.

Perhaps you've been bereaved by suicide, or someone close to you has died and the relationship you had was / difficult, or it's somehow assumed you don't have the right to grieve, or your grief isn't as "bad" as another person's grief.

I have a dual focus on:

• Therapy for the grief process using a variety of evidence-informed approaches
• Readjustment to life after loss. 

I can help you learn to live with unimaginable loss, and create a life of hope and meaning. You can rediscover your sense of self and find joy in living again.